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Where I am is Fine because it’s the Start of Where I’m Going

Where I am is Fine because it’s the Start of Where I’m Going

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So where are you in your life?

Is it where you expected to be? Do you have everything your heart desires?

I hope the latter is true for you. The former is unlikely for most of us. Because how can any one of us predict the vastness of life, as a child or as an adult?

Our preferences change wildly over time, which is how it is meant to be. It’s what gives life its sweet unpredictability. It’s what stops us from being bored. The excitement lies on the other side of fear. It’s only by jumping out of the aeroplanes of our life that we can truly appreciate the views on the way down.

I would never jump out of a plane for real, by the way. Only if it was on fire or if somebody pushed me. But I have jumped out of my share of psychological planes. Some of them were on fire at the time.

Lucky for me, physical courage and psychological courage are two very different things. A fear of heights doesn’t necessarily preclude you from reaching dizzying heights in your own personal life — from daring greatly. Courage comes in many forms. Sometimes it’s just putting the words down on the page. Pressing publish after bleeding your own truth.

Having everything your heart desires is overrated anyway. Yes, it’s great to get what you want — wonderful, in fact — time to revel in the satisfaction. But haven’t you noticed that once you get what you want, you start looking to the next thing that you want? There is nothing perverse in this and it doesn’t mean you are ungrateful. It just means you are being human.

We are hard wired for growth — constant movement and change. If this were not so, we would not have evolved as a species. So next time you reach your goal and you are only satisfied for what seems like ten minutes, (try and stretch it out a little maybe), don’t waste any time beating yourself up about it. Instead, realize that as a human being, this is what you’re hardwired for. This constant glorious expansion. Don’t bother looking back. Focus on the path ahead. The views are stunning.

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